Problem with dating a married man
Truth is illicit affairs are interesting not because the man is the only man in the world but because you are getting a rush out of it. I know he says you are number one when he holds you at night but he will never repeat it to his children or friends and it is only a matter of time before all the hiding begins to take its toll on you and the relationship and suddenly the man who looked like the best thing since God created Leonardo d’ Caprio is no longer that ‘great’ guy anymore. Click here to read the experience of having an affair with a married man from the beginning. I see only one problem relationship here, and that’s the one you’re in right now. You were young and in school, long-distance, or experimenting. when you meet a man who is married, don’t ever begin to size him up as somebody you could date. It makes sense that you dated those men until it was time to break up. Based on how you framed this letter, I assume that this guy is 100 percent married, not out of the house and waiting on his divorce papers. Like Meredith said, you’re not entitled to be with this man simply because your past relationships didn’t pan out. The love affair with the married man starts with a man who married for the wrong reasons and thus never truly felt fulfilled in his commitment to the wife.They probably have kids together and that is the only bond they share.I have been dating a married man from before Christmas.
You weren’t looking for “terminal.” Your love life was very acceptable up until this point. I stopped with your question about how you got to the point of dating a married man.
I must tell you that you are not entitled to anything. All your other relationships were just normal growing pains of life. Confine your looking to those who are emotionally available: Look for a nice, single guy within a five mile radius.
And I don’t see a pattern here — because really, all relationships have a low chance of long-term success. This is the first time that your breaking the “pattern” and just flat out doing something wrong.
If you’re going to remain in this relationship, it’s important to have the right expectations. In all likelihood, this relationship will be short-lived and not serious.
His statement of leaving his wife could be taken seriously if he were finalizing a divorce, but this is not the case.