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So one night, during a romantic dinner at my favorite Italian bistro (I'd insisted that we finally go somewhere other than our apartments), I announced, "I don't think we have what it takes to make it in the long run." After six months of ordering takeout and sleeping over, we were breaking up on our first real date.
This wasn't the only time I'd fast-forwarded to the sex.
Not long ago, hoping to silence my moaning about a particularly rough dating drought, a girlfriend volunteered to fix me up with her old friend T. After a day of message volleying, we agreed to talk on the phone that night. Soon enough, though, the mornings after brought a sinking "this isn't going to work" feeling.
I wanted to speed things along—finally I'd found someone worthy of my attention—and I suggested we meet right that minute. From then on we were coupled up, quite literally, since we spent most of our time horizontal in his place or mine.
Charmingly boyish now seemed plain immature, and enthusiastic was more like hyper.
The more time we spent vertical, actually talking, the less I liked him.
Women are suddenly having gobs of it: 40 percent of us, ages 20 to 24, have tried anal sex, up from 16 percent in 1992, found a survey published in in 2010.
But for every one of those fairy tales, I've heard 150 stories from women who've started down that road and didn't end up in the loving relationship they wanted."Asking yourself whether you're having sex too soon, Atwood hastens to point out, doesn't mean catapulting back to the days when women weren't entitled to be as freely, truly, madly and deeply sexual as men.
Like with any uncharted territory, there will, of course, be a few surprises along the way.
And though these surprises are part of the fun, it can’t hurt to have some idea of what you’re getting yourself into once you put yourself back on the market: You Might Feel Like a Teenager—Again Dating again—and having sex with someone new—can be “scary and exciting all together,” says Cathie Helfand, a psychotherapist and family life educator.
“Emotionally, I tell everyone to expect to feel about 15 years old,” says Susan Pease Gadoua, therapist and author of “Contemplating Divorce: A Step-by-Step Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go.” “Having sex with someone new after being married for a long time will likely feel strange and awkward and can be much more emotional than one might think.” Women shouldn’t push themselves into anything they don’t feel comfortable doing, she says.
Even though you may feel like one, you’re a teenager, and “you need to take charge of how quickly the sex part of a relationship goes.” First-Time Jitters Come Standard Unfortunately, those pesky “first-time” nerves are part of the return-to-adolescence package.